Abuse Support

Domestic abuse is not just physical. It is not just a shove, a punch or even yelling. It also includes intimidation psychologically and emotionally to gain control over a partner (domestic violence can male to female, female to male, homosexual, and bi-sexual relationships). Many times, domestic violence does not happen in the early stages of a relationship. It happens over time as a person’s dignity is every so cleverly stripped away until they feel trapped by the other person out of fear and hopelessness. Check out this “Power and Control” wheel by the National Domestic Violence Hotline. It shows a pretty accurate description of what could possibly happen in a domestic violence relationship.

Here are some warning signs of abuse:

  • You can never do anything right.
  • Shames you or insults you.
  • Controls who you see and when you see them.
  • Won’t allow you to work or go to school
  • Destroys property or hurts (or threatens to hurt pets)
  • Threatens to harm or take away children.
  • Takes your money or refuses to give you any money.
  • Pressures sexually. Doesn’t listen when you don’t want to have sex and coerces you to engage in sexual activity you are not comfortable with.
  • Pressures you to engage in drugs or alcohol.
Abuse Power Control Wheel


There are different types of abuse, as well. Here are the different types and a couple of examples of each. To learn more visit the www.thehotline.org website

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Physical Abuse:

  • Hurting you physically. Includes punching, biting, kicking, pulling hair, choking.
  • Preventing you from calling the police.
  • Not allowing you to eat or sleep.

Emotional Abuse:

  • Calling you names, insulting you, humiliating you, overly criticizing you.
  • Unwilling to give you affection
  • Cheating on you because it’s your fault.

Sexual Abuse:

  • Forcing you to have sex for any reason (this includes involving others in your sexual activities against your will).
  • Intentionally passing on a STD/STI
  • Hurting you during sex (forcefully holding you down, using objects or weapons sexually)

Reproductive Coercion:

  • Refusing to use contraceptives
  • Not allowing you to use any form of birth control
  • Forcing an abortion or adoption, or prevention of abortion or adoption

Financial Abuse:

  • Not allowing you access to your money.
  • Stealing your paycheck.
  • Living in your home, but refuses to work and financially contribute to the needs of the household.

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Digital Abuse:

  • Closely monitors your friends and postings on socials.
  • Demands explicit pictures of you, and sends you unwanted explicit pictures.
  • Goes through your phone to keep tabs on your phone calls, texts, and pictures.

No one deserves to be treated poorly. It doesn’t matter if you feel like you only experience one or two of these examples. You shouldn’t be experiencing any. We know it’s difficult and scary. We also know these relationships are complex. But, remember, you are not alone. We see you. Contact Bridges. We will walk alongside you and connect you to the right resources to best help you in your situation. And, as always, if you feel that your life or your children’s lives are in danger, call 911 immediately.